Marriage & Lightbulbs

I stumbled across an interesting quote today in my travels through the internet. It said, "A marriage is like a house. When a lightbulb burns out, you don't go buy a new house. You fix the lightbulb."

Now you can go on about how you don't typically "fix" a lightbulb, you replace it, and try to dissect the meaning bit by bit. Just roll with it for a minute.

I feel like people these days get so used to just being able to replace something that they deem isn't working anymore. Our cars, phones, computers, clothes- you name it. So if something goes wrong in our marriage, why can't we just replace that too? We are so quick to give up quickly, assuming it's easier to go separate ways instead of fixing the actual issue at hand.

Don't get me wrong. There's people who try, try, try, and try to "fix the lightbulbs." And the kitchen sink. And the back door. And the water heater. And, much to their disappointment, they can't. They can't mend what once was whole, and they decide to "buy a new house." Sometimes that option is the best for people, and in that I am 100% supportive. Seriously. I've seen it benefit people in ways unimaginable. However, I don't think that is a fix-all for everyone. It can't be. No one "solution" is right for everyone. 

Yes, lightbulbs burnt out. Marriage isn't always easy, but I would even live in a house with NO lightbulbs than to have no house at all. Nate is my rock, my best friend, and my partner in crime. He works his tail off day in and day out to provide for Paisley and I. He is my handyman, the warm spot to put my cold toes at night, and a shoulder to cry on. He is my supporter of dreams and aspirations, the man to keep me grounded, and one who encourages me to set and reach my goals. 

He would be the first to tell you we don't agree on everything. I think that is okay, too. We aren't expected to have the same opinions on EVERYTHING as our spouse. But neither of us have thrown our hands up wanting nothing to do each other. Like they say, "If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently." I'm glad I married the right man, at the right time, in the right place. I know we can be together eternally if we live righteously. 

I cherish my marriage, and I cherish Nate. I never knew a piece of my heart was missing until I met him, and I like to think he carries that half of me in his pocket everywhere he goes.

I like my "house." I'll take the "anything and everything broken", yet fixable, to have my house. After all, home is wherever I am with him.

I love you, Nater!